Everybody in life encounters the emotion of fear. Fear is not a bad thing. It exists for our protection as an early warning signal. But what you need to understand is that there is a very big difference between the healthy fear that tells people to avoid a negative situation, as compared to the fear that causes constraint, anxiety, and ultimately keeps us from living our daily lives.And it’s this negative fear that is driven from business and financial circumstances that I want to talk about with you today.
The whole entire purpose of me writing this article is not to help everybody with their fears and phobias. It’s not a generalized discussion on how to overcome your fear of spiders or heights or whatever you have a fear of. This is about discussing a paralyzing fear that keeps people from reaching their financial dreams and goals.
This article is targeted to the small business owner and to all people who want to make money in life with a specialized focus or niche in entrepreneurship, which is what my background and life focus is in. And because we share similar interests, goals, and aspirations, it is you who I want to get this message across to here today.
This is about overcoming your fears so that way you can make fortunes, retire early, and be set up emotionally and financially to provide a
wonderful life for your family. In order to reach that point you need to first learn to understand and overcome your fears.
Now, as I just mentioned previously, fear is a survival instinct. It’s something that everybody has inside of them. The problem is that too many people let this fear take control of their lives. And if you do that, you are in return setting yourself up for a very stagnant, unsuccessful, unproductive, anxiety filled life. And that’s no way to live.
So, the first thing that you need to do is take a step back and look at yourself from an outsider’s point of view. You must really try to analyze and understand exactly what it is that’s keeping you from reaching your goals. What exactly is keeping you awake at night? What exactly are you afraid of? What are these fears that are inside you?
And then, once you start to understand and see the outside view of what these fears are, you must then dig deeper and try to find the root of these fears. What is causing these fears to occur inside of you?
Napoleon Hill, who is the author of “Think and Grow Rich,” which is an absolute phenomenal book that continues to stand the test of time, Napoleon Hill once said, “Free yourself of fear and you free yourself of a man made devil.” There are two very important words that I want to discuss with you within this quote. And the two words are “man made.” Think about that, man made.
I’m not a Psychiatrist, but I would venture to guess that 90%, 95% to 99% of all of your fears in life are man made. You’ve created them. You’ve brought them on yourselves and ultimately you control the on/off switch. Now, I know what you’re probably thinking right now, “Easier said than done,” right? Well, yes and no. You’ve got to be open-minded and internally want to, and believe that you can eliminate the fears that are running your life. You need to be very optimistic about everything that I’m sharing with you right now. If you are reading this article and at the same time having feelings of negativity or saying to yourself “I can’t do that”, those are all negative feelings driven by the fears that you have inside.
If this is you, then you need to immediately pause for a moment, take a few deep breaths, close your eyes and try to take control of your thoughts. Pausing will allow you to change your mental outlook and mental attitude for a moment. Force yourself to shift from negative thinking to positive and open-minded thinking.
You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop feeling guilty and start being thankful and grateful for what you already have.
So, the point that I am trying to make, is that it all starts with a mental shift in your thinking. This shift in your thinking will then result in a shift in your feelings, which causes your fear.
I firmly believe that fear is the most powerful of all the negative emotions there are in the world. Ultimately fear does nothing but cause endless pain and suffering to the person that is having these fears.
It is also extremely important that you understand and know that fear is magnetic, it attracts more fear. It attracts more negative feelings, more negative pain, more negative suffering. The more fear you have the more fear you are likely to attract.
So, the question now is how do you win? How do you face your fears? How do you create your fortunes in your business?
Well, rather than surrendering to your fears and giving in, you need to be strong. You need to learn to fight your fears with all your might. You should avoid visualizing your fears as a 10 foot thick steel wall surrounded by a high voltage fence and guard dogs. Instead, you need to merely recognize your fear as a starting point from which you can use to take off from.
Ok Brian, But what exactly does that mean?
Well, if your fears come from money then you need to let your lack of money and fear of having to pinch pennies your entire life, work as a motivator. You need to use this feeling to begin to make yourself aware of all the ways you can think of to help you eliminate this problem, to help you erase this fear.
You see, fear is an extremely paralyzing emotion that affects your business and your every day life. It affects your relationships with your friends, your family and your loved ones.
So, rather than giving in, try to learn to recognize these feelings of fear that you encounter. And know that these are evil feelings, feelings that are trying to blind you from the truth of what life can really and truly hold for you.
I just discussed earlier that 99% of feelings of fear are man made. Well, an acronym that I absolutely love to use and unfortunately can’t take credit for is the following. It says fear stands for this; False Emotions Appearing Real. F-E-A-R, False Emotions Appearing Real.
Do I personally encounter feelings of fear and anxiety in my business and life? Absolutely. I am no different than you.
However, I’ve learned to recognize and understand the truth that my own imagination is creating these thoughts and fears in my life.
So, I believe the acronym False Emotions Appearing Real is so true. And once you recognize this and begin to understand a deeper meaning of this, your attitude will begin to change and so will your results.
I personally believe it to be an absolute fact that your mind has limitless power to make your dreams come true, provided that you allow your mind to work free of fear.
One of the many detrimental things about fear is it can and will do everything it possibly can to stop you before you get started. Fear has a complete imagination of its own, which is only influenced by negative emotions.
If you let your fears take hold of you and constrain you, then all your ability to create and achieve will be crippled and potentially lost forever, all because of fear.
Whether you choose to believe me or not, and I hope you do, we are not all too different. You are not different than the mega successful business owners and the world leaders out in the world today.
If mega successful business owners and world leaders let fear run their lives, then it’s very likely that we would not have automobiles to drive around in. We wouldn’t have landed on the moon or experienced space travel. We wouldn’t have democracy and freedom. We wouldn’t be flying from coast to coast in airplanes. All this stuff wouldn’t be available to us if people gave into all their fears.
So, conquering fear is about controlling your state of mind. Instead of waking up each day and fearing the worst, you need to start reaching and aspiring for the absolute best. You must stop complaining and looking for symptoms that may cause you to fail, and instead begin looking for more ways that can cause you to succeed.
Now, I’m not preaching to you that a simple state of mind is going to prevent negative feelings or problems occurring within your life. We all know that Murphy lives everywhere, and if something can go wrong it will go wrong. But what I am saying is controlling your state of mind will help you to beat fear and overcome all these obstacles that you encounter that are part of life.
Unfortunately, I too have had to deal with the drastic life encounters and setbacks, but the fact of the matter is everybody has their own problems in life. What I have to do personally is I have to keep my state of mind going strong and stay positive and optimistic to prevent all the negative feelings and fears that could potentially come into my life and cause me to begin to falter.
Is it easy for me? Absolutely not. But just simply by me identifying and recognizing these feelings, it allows me to overcome the problems, challenges, fears, and other negative feelings that can result from these situations.
Upon doing some research and analyzation of fear, I believe the opposite of fear is faith, confidence and courage.
A mind that is filled with faith, confidence and courage can see much more clearly through the negative fog that prevents people from achieving their dreams.
Another great quote from the late Napoleon Hill is this, “Every adversity carries within it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit.”
To put that in simpler terms: every negative carries with it the opportunity for a positive. This is so true if you choose to believe it.
Every negative outcome can and should be able to provide you with a positive outcome.
You should strive to look at fear and challenges in this light. So many people fear the unknown or the what-ifs. But if you think about it this way, why cause yourself to worry about something that is beyond your control?
You shouldn’t fear what you cannot control.
So, more than anything else, your fears are made by you and what you choose to believe and how you choose to live your life.
If you have to rid yourself of certain bad habits in order to eliminate and rise above your fears, then by all means do it. If you have to remove yourself from certain people in your life in order to rise above and face your fears and defeat your fears, then do it. Nobody said this was going to be easy; you very likely may have to take drastic steps to get rid of the venom that’s poisoning your mind. You need to do whatever it takes to face your fears and make this happen.
If you want to defeat your fears that are holding you back, then I would highly advise you to begin to sharpen your weapons of self-confidence, courage and faith.Tthat way you can fight your fears all the way to the end, until you defeat them.
Fear can cripple you. It can paralyze you. It can keep you from reaching your financial goals and achieving your dreams.
Do me a favor and consider this the next time you encounter a fear that’s holding you back. Ask yourself “What’s the worst that can happen?” If something you want to do you’re not doing because you’re afraid, then ask yourself this, “If you go ahead and do this anyway, if you make this investment, if you purchase this property, if you hire this person, if you accept this client, what is the worst that could possibly happen from doing this act?”
And if you ask yourself that question and you really analyze the outcome, the potential outcomes that could occur, it’s really not so bad.
If the worst that could happen is something that’s going to keep you awake at night and affect your marriage and potentially put you out of business, well then you probably shouldn’t do it. Everybody has a gut instinct and a conscience. I’m not telling you to go do things that are illogical and don’t make sense financially or for any other matter.
But simply ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen.” If you could live with that then you may want to proceed, because nothing’s going to change unless you take action.
You see, nobody, and I mean nobody, is going to take action for you. Especially as a self-employed business owner and entrepreneur. Every outcome rests on your shoulders. And oftentimes you have a very heavy load to bear. If you commit yourself to taking action when problems present themselves then you will consciously and subconsciously create solutions and overcome fears before it takes over your mind and body. The ability to take action is a very important piece of this puzzle that you must always incorporate within your entrepreneurial life.
The last piece of insight that I want to share with you about facing your fears is this: sometimes fear causes us to become trapped in our business and our lives in a way that most people don’t understand. Individuals that are not business owners and entrepreneurs typically do not understand. And sometimes no matter how hard we try to take action, have faith, and control our state of mind, it can often feel as though things simply aren’t changing.
My response to this is in two parts:
(1) Don’t ever give up on your faith and your state of mind. This is the backbone and foundation of your entrepreneurial spirit.
(2) Consider this…take a step back from the immediate needs of your business and create a shift in your thinking. What I mean by this is, distract or trick your mind to forget about the negative fear, and in turn create a new level of interest in something that you can focus your entrepreneurial juices on for a period of time. Perhaps this would be writing a book, or focusing on a new method of investment within your business. Or, perhaps this could be focusing on a new marketing strategy, etc.
I have found that this method actually works very well for me when I find myself in a mental slump or other form of distraction within my business.
Ultimately my friend, your mind has limitless power to make a desire come true, to make your dreams come true, to achieve your financial fortunes, and your wealth. The choice is yours.
The most successful people of all time have had to overcome obstacles and fears that most of us feel on a regular basis. And only fear can rob you of your dreams and aspirations.
No matter where you are in life and in your business, you should always strive to do everything you can to use your fear as a motivating factor to help you find solutions to quickly defeat this negative evil.
I hope that you’ve learned something today that can help you overcome your fears. And if you implement some of my techniques then fortune is right around the corner.
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Brian Evans is a best selling author, real estate investment expert, mentor, speaker and information marketer. His flagship book, “How To Make Money In Your Local Real Estate Market,” & best selling book “The New Masters of Real Estate” were both released in 2010. Brian is also the founder of a national real estate investing group called, Ultimate Real Estate Investors, who’s motto is: Make Money, Live Wealthy, No Excuses. This is the place where leading investors from all over the country come together to achieve goals, develop lasting relationships, make real money, create multiple streams of income and wealth, master the business of real estate investing once and for all, and turn dreams into reality! Ultimate Real Estate Investors
Thank you for your priceless insights and techniques, Brian! These come at a perfect time in my life. I was recently paralyzed by fear in my personal and business life because of the words “economic crisis”. I almost gave up on my life dreams because I started believing I was a victim. This limiting belief was not good and thankfully, my personal desire and drive to win is continuously attracting individuals like yourself, fellow GKIC Members, and others who have awareness to face their fears. After allowing my self to receive empowering advice and continuously practicing the techniques, I have learned to help shift my negative thoughts. I am creating my ideal and amazing lifestyle. Thank you again for sharing, Brian!
With gratitude,
Brenda Leguisamo
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